It can be quite stressful for the mother of the bride to be asked to deliver a wedding speech, so here are some hints and tips about how to do it.
Firstly, you need to get the basic structure of what you are going to say clear:
There are many variations on wedding speeches but they all follow the same basic format. If you keep this in mind then it can help you if you get distract of lost when practicing.
You need to choose the tone of your speech. When you describe your daughter you need to choose how flattering you will be and how much emotion you will put into the speech. Some emotion is always good and will give a warm feeling to your listeners. However a long fawning, emotion speech can seem a little indulgent to people who do not know you so well. You need to balance the emotion with some humour and keep an eye on the length. Unless you adlib really well, a long speech is going to be difficult to memorise.
Here is an example of a balanced speech:
Good evening everyone and welcome to this wedding celebration. My husband and I had a wonderful day today celebrating the marriage of [bride] and [groom] and we would like to thank you all for joining us and making this day a really magical one. In particular we would like to thank those who have travelled a long distance to be with us. (mentioning a few examples can work well)
[Bride], it fills me with joy to see how wonderful you look today as you take your place beside your husband. You have always been a wonderful talented daughter. I remember when you were six and cam home from ballet class. You told me that Miss Sims said “I would be a wonderful dancer if it was not for two things” I asked what and you told me “My feet”.
If I had one piece of advice to pass onto [bride] it would be that success in marriage is more than finding the right person, it is being the right person.
Joking aside, [groom] is a wonderful match for our daughter and we are very happy to see them start their new life together. [Groom] is everything that a mother could want from a son-in-law and I am pleased to welcome him to our family.
So I would like to propose a toast ladies and gentlemen. Please join me in wishing [bride] and [groom] every happiness in their future life together – the bride and groom.
You can embellish this example in several ways. Firstly you can add more anecdotes about things that happened to the bride when she was younger. Look for things that will amuse people without embarrassing her. The more insight they give into her character the better.
Wedding guest also love stories about how couples got together or what happened when you were first introduced to your son-in-law. If you feel that you can get away with it, some gentle teasing of the people on the top table can also be fun. However rule number one with wedding speeches is that if you are not sure if it will offend, leave it out. Wedding speeches are like toothpaste – the content will not go back in the tube once it is out there.
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